So, last night was the first night of Hanukkah, there are only two more shopping days until Christmas, Kwanzaa begins on Friday, and if you were looking for St. Nicholas, he came way back on December 6th. Yesterday was Yule for both Christians and Wiccans. Chances are you probably know at least one person who has a birthday this week–the chances go up dramatically if you include those folks on your Facebook friend page. What do any of these things have to do with anything–or each other? Well, they’re all gift-giving opportunities, of course.
I have a sentimental attachment to the printed page. The first book I remember receiving as a gift was called Laurie and the Yellow Curtains. It was given to me by my Aunt Barbara and it was about a little girl who desperately wanted curtains for her tree house. I loved the book mostly because the heroine and I had the same name (I was Laurie until I was eight or so). But the book also touched my imagination. I wasn’t the sort of girl who would ever have a tree house. We always lived in apartments. My space was rarely my own, and I had very little say about the decor. I seem to remember that Laurie was a bit of a whiner. We had that in common. I remember the cover of the book–the old-fashioned textured feel of it, the brilliant yellow of the curtains, the way they appeared to lift a bit in the breeze as Laurie looked out, smiling. (I wrote this description before I Googled the title–and there was the cover on Amazon. Totally freaked me out to see that it was exactly how I remembered it!)
I’ve read books to my children since before they were born. My daughter’s room has way more books than clothes in it. My son is addicted to some Scholastic dragon book series and National Geographic Kids Magazine. He started writing his first short story on the computer last week and announced the title of his to-be written novel when he was five.
Books R Us here at the Benedict house. Books are wonderful things. And I hope that books play a big role at your house, too. I hope that if you’re buying a gift for someone, you’ll consider buying him or her a book. Something to excite their imaginations, something they can share with their friends, something that will inspire them.
But. (And you knew there was one….)
If you’re not in the buying mood, consider this: You have a story to share. Everyone does.
Are there children in your life? If so, the greatest gift that you could give them is your time and interest. If you’re ten, twenty, thirty years older than that child, you’re practically an antique! Like a book, you can offer a child a peek into the world that existed before they did. (They won’t believe you at first–I know I had a hard time believing that my parents had ANY sort of life before I came along.) Contemporary media is so focused on the immediate moment, creating a constant buzz of activity and entertainment. But if we’re too busy in the moment, we don’t have any reason to pause and look back. Our common cultural references are reduced to a kind of shorthand: smiley faces, and giant yellow arches connected to create an “M”. What you can offer is a connection that’s both personal and, well, historical.
No time that you spend one-on-one with a child is wasted. And the thing about stories is that they perpetuate themselves. They grow as thoughts and as memories. Sometimes we appropriate others’ stories as our own, making them bigger, more interesting, or less frightening. They feed us and sustain us and make us feel less alone in the world. They can also make us more curious about the world outside of ourselves, which often leads to an effort to learn more, which often leads to…
books, of course!
If you’re nowhere near a Big City and long to stroll down a thoroughfare to see fabulously decorated shop windows, drop in at my friend Tara Bradford’s Paris Parfait blog. For the past week or so, she’s put up some holiday photos to die for–Tiffany’s included!
If you have a book to promote in 2009, you’ll want to check out MJ Rose’s very popular Buzz Your Book class that’s in session only once this coming year. MJ writes: “It’s a really relevant class in these times where authors need to do more themselves for their own books. Our alumnae is pretty impressive, from Joshusa Henkin to Jenny Shortridge to Karen Dionne.” If you’re interested, sign up here. Starts January 5th.