Husband told me about a podcast he’d listened to about visualization. I’m a sucker for new ideas about how to change myself and the way I relate to the world. You’d think I believed in perfectibility or something.
Visualization is what it sounds like it is: Imagine yourself as the kind of person you want to be. Don’t worry about those 21 days to solidify a habit. Don’t look at change as an insurmountable task. Don’t try to talk yourself into (or out of) change. It’s the self-help version of “just do it.”
Just be it.
It’s an interesting yet daunting concept. I have so many questions.
What about spending hours bemoaning one’s shortcomings first?
What about the idea that what I want is probably unachievable anyway?
What about making short-term goals so I don’t have to eat the elephant all in one bite?
What about not being enough?
What about being satisfied with myself as I am?
The first five questions indicate to me that I’m prone to self-doubt. Self-doubt is a natural thing. A little can be motivating, but too much can be debilitating. I like to imagine that I’m a very optimistic person, but I suspect the opposite is often true. Self-doubt and fear unite inside me, telling me that change is too hard. Letting go of fear and self-doubt feels akin to letting go of the side of the pool before I’m confident about my swimming stroke.
Visualizing myself as already embodying the change seems awfully risky. But then again, it’s probably worth a shot.
The question of simply being satisfied with myself as I am seems to directly contradict the notion of taking on a new attitude or new direction. But maybe it really is okay to be dissatisfied with some way we are at any given time.
This is a notion worth exploring. It certainly raises the possibility of change without all the angst.
There are lots of visualization exercises online. The always inspirational Mindbodygreen is a good place to start. Or visit Operationmeditation or 4 Simple Visualization Techniques to Accomplish Anything.
If there’s something you want to change, you might take a look.
Today I’m going to be the kind of person who goes to bed before 1:00 a.m. What about you? Any changes on your mind?